Don't Tell Tara - the inner workings of a chronic oversharer

What makes us the perfect girlfriend? What do men want? What are they looking for?  Can you see what's wrong with all of these questions? I've been reading Gone Girl for the past few weeks (I'm not slow, just busy, ok?) when I reached a chapter that really opened my eyes… Now I'm not about to give away the plot to the thriller of the year don't worry… The main female character talks about being the "cool girl' the girl of every guys' dreams. Think Mila Kunis in Friends with Benefits- in fact think of any girl in any film who gets the guy:  she's sexy, cool, effortless, fun, witty, crazy horny, laid back and a little clumsy; so basically she's a dude. This girl comes in many forms-her appearance can fit the mould of any kind of girl thats appealing to a man: however the persona is the same. But does this girl really exist or are we all trying to conjure up a figment of the male imagination? “Men always say that as the definin...

They say that in the midst of darkness, we look for light . When things begin to fall apart around us, we can't help but focus on the fact that everything seems to be going hunky bloody dory for everyone else. Now I'm the sort of girl whose misery loves company- if I have shit going on, I want to talk about it. It makes me feel human, it's my therapy. I don't, by any stretch, believe that any of my friends can solve my problems for me, but I do believe that a problem shared is a problem halved, and I would also want them to feel like they can always come to me if they need help.  We all like to have a whinge and a moan when our boyfriends/husbands are annoying us, but there came a point in my relationship when I started to sound like a broken record… the arguments were more frequent, and we couldn't seem to get past this 'rocky patch'. Worst of all, we were only 6 months in. Now as one friend so brutally, yet honestly told me- "life isn't lik...